Success Triggers The Insecure
DISCLAIMER – I HAVE ACTUALLY HAD SOME BEAUTIFUL FRIENDS ASK QUESTIONS OR QUERY THINGS AS LISTED BELOW, HOWEVER WITH A POSITIVE INTENT AND WITH AN EXCITABLE INTEREST. SO PLEASE KNOW, I AM ACKNOWLEDGING THOSE WONDERFUL SOULS BEFORE THIS POST SO IT IS UNDERSTOOD, THAT THIS BLOG IS ABOUT THE SMACK TALKERS.
So, the website is finally live, blogs are rolling out, and suddenly the questions start flying—
“How do you plan your content?”
“Do you have a calendar or some super-organised system?”
“Do you check what’s trending, research keywords, analyse backlinks?”
“Or are you just winging it with no direction at all?”
And then, of course, comes the classic:
“Hey, when we worked in property together, you were the most analytic, systemised, note-taking, diary-planning person in the room. So what is the deal now? Is this even your work, or did you just toss a couple of ideas into the air and let AI do the rest?”
Oh, but wait—here comes the real kicker:
“Are you even making money from it?”
Cue the eye roll. Because let’s be real—when you start leveling up, you don’t just get questions; you get side-eyes, unsolicited critiques, and full-blown skepticism wrapped in condescension. And yes, sometimes even straight-up betrayal. I recently had a male friend undermind me to a reconnected girlfriend of past and that was so hurtful beyond words can convey.
The same people who once acted like they had your back suddenly start sliding into other people’s DMs, hanging out where they never used to, whispering about you like your success is a personal attack on their mediocrity.
And here’s the truth: IT. WILL. HAPPEN.
When you step into your greatness, people who have been idling in the comfort lane start feeling some type of way. Maybe they think they deserved it more. Maybe they’re mad that you finally pieced yourself together when they’re still trying to figure themselves out. Maybe they just can not stand that you’re DOING SOMETHING while they’re still waiting for life to hand them opportunities.
So, what do you do? You SHOW them.
Not for their approval. Not for validation. Not to prove a point because the outcome will be a point that did not need to be highlighted, hahaha.
But because you were already built for this. Because the best clapback is consistency. Because while they waste time dissecting your moves, you’re out here making MORE of them.
And let us be clear: being real isn’t about being soft, overly kind, or universally adored. Being chosen is not about who has had the hardest life, the best marketing strategy, or the most aggressive energy in the room or how you even had attempted your own online business or used to be the CEO or listed in Forbes magazine.
It’s something innate.
If you have to ask if you are, then you aren’t. Simple as that.
So let them talk. Let them doubt. Let them throw their little jabs. And while they’re busy with that, go ahead and keep thriving.
Because the real ones? They’ll get it. And as for the rest? Well, they can keep watching, telling stories of who you are or who they think you are or even degrade you further with their bitching, perhaps even wanting to see if they can hang out or be part of what you are doing or even have bigger plans looking for a ride on your coat tails for a pay day. At the end of the day, stay strong and just keep being YOU.
CHEERS, SERA J
