1. “How would it make you feel if you never saw me again?”
This question is so profound. It’s a way of testing the depth of someone’s feelings and understanding how they truly perceive the relationship. How they respond—not just verbally, but in their entire demeanor—can show you if their feelings are rooted in genuine love and care or if they are more self-serving. If they feel sadness, concern, or fear at the idea of losing you, it reflects the strength of their attachment. If they seem indifferent or even relieved, it’s a signal of emotional disconnection. This question lays bare the emotional stakes of the relationship.
2. “What you truly want is what you fear the most.”
Our desires often align with our deepest fears because we fear the vulnerability that comes with them. If you’re an avoidant, the intimacy you crave is something that also scares you. If you’re anxious, the independence you need is terrifying because it forces you to confront your own insecurities. Lust often masks a deeper desire for love, while people-pleasers may fear conflict even though it’s necessary for healthy boundaries. People who control often crave trust, yet struggle to give it. The paradox is powerful: to heal and grow, we need to embrace these fears and learn how to turn them into strengths.
3. “My purpose is not the things that I do, it is the thing that happens in others when you do what you do.”
It reminds us that true purpose isn’t just in the actions we take but in the way we affect and uplift others. Our purpose is felt in the way we help people grow, heal, or find joy in the world around us. It’s about how we show up and the ripples we create through our actions, whether big or small. It highlights the importance of being mindful of how our presence, words, and choices impact the world around us.
4. “Love is someone who sees the harsh side of you and still chooses to love you.”
This definition of love is pure and deep. Love isn’t about perfection; it’s about acceptance and support through the ups and downs. Real love sees you at your most vulnerable, broken, and raw, and they make the decision of free-will, to stay. It’s someone who doesn’t run when things get hard but instead becomes your anchor. Love is not just in the moments of joy, but in the moments of struggle when someone helps you through and makes sure you are okay. It’s a love that stays when the world feels heavy, someone who pours into you just as much as you pour into them. Love is about consistency, empathy, and unconditional care.
The sentiment “Stay Real” is a powerful reminder to always be authentic, no matter how challenging it may seem. True love, deep connection, and self-awareness all require us to stay true to ourselves and our feelings, no matter how messy or complicated life may get. It’s about embracing vulnerability and authenticity in order to foster the kind of love that is healing, nurturing, and life-giving.
SERA J
